http://www.sarahanma.com/when-the-need-for-security-goes-too-far/ Art of Relationship Sat, 21 Jan 2012 19:07:22 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 http://www.sarahanma.com/when-the-need-for-security-goes-too-far/comment-page-1/#comment-226 Elena Fri, 09 Jul 2010 04:04:45 +0000 http://sarahanma.com/?p=1380#comment-226 Interesting. You know, I've been married twice. My first husband did not have a steady job. He was good at what he did, but he kept quitting or getting fired and blamed others. He was not good with money, and would juggle finances back and forth to pay the bills. It stressed me out a great deal, and I think that with that kind of person, there would be no way on god's green earth that I would be comfortable with them "following their dreams." On the other hand, my second husband was very responsible with money. He would work for a year, live frugally and save a ton of money, all the bills would be paid, then he'd take a year off and pursue his dream to be a film maker. I never worried about this. I would keep working, and all the bills were paid. I encouraged him to pursue his dreams, in some cases I pushed him, even. So I guess if I trust my partner there's no issue. If I don't, however, forget it. His dreams can go to heck. Of course, if I don't trust him, there's all kinds of other issues going on at the same time, aren't there? Interesting. You know, I’ve been married twice. My first husband did not have a steady job. He was good at what he did, but he kept quitting or getting fired and blamed others. He was not good with money, and would juggle finances back and forth to pay the bills. It stressed me out a great deal, and I think that with that kind of person, there would be no way on god’s green earth that I would be comfortable with them “following their dreams.” On the other hand, my second husband was very responsible with money. He would work for a year, live frugally and save a ton of money, all the bills would be paid, then he’d take a year off and pursue his dream to be a film maker. I never worried about this. I would keep working, and all the bills were paid. I encouraged him to pursue his dreams, in some cases I pushed him, even. So I guess if I trust my partner there’s no issue. If I don’t, however, forget it. His dreams can go to heck. Of course, if I don’t trust him, there’s all kinds of other issues going on at the same time, aren’t there?

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